A friend of mine handed me an article on Strategic Questioning some time ago now and it has had a profound impact on my life. I began to ask myself big questions and I allowed myself to answer them as though anything was possible.
Strategic Questioning invites you to stand back, and think about the answers personally and honestly.
Questions without Assumptions…That means – no closed questions. Once you start to put this into practice, you begin to notice how many of your questions are closed or assumptive.
There is a big difference between asking, ‘Do you want to go to the market on Saturday?’, instead of, ‘What would you like to do on Saturday? ’One collapses all other possibilities, while the other offers the potential for a multitude of answers.
A strategic question opens up options. A good strategic question should have many possible answers. The Strategic Question that I had been asking myself is, What makes me happy?
The answer was clear. I am happy when I am travelling, moving my body, cooking or gardening. I am happy when I am thinking, reading, writing and communicating ideas and thoughts with other people, and of course, when I am with my loved ones.
By asking myself Strategic questions, I began to realise that I wanted to spend as much of my life doing the things that make me happy. When I strategically began to ask myself HOW I could include these activities more in my daily life I realised that it wasn’t outside of the realm of possibility. Although it seemed a long journey, I could start to make small steps on the path while the bigger steps sorted themselves out.
By asking myself those strategic questions, I allowed other possibilities to emerge and the path that was twisting around the bend behind the undergrowth revealed itself.
I first started asking myself these questions about 10 years ago and my life has changed considerably since then. I now spend almost all my time doing things I love, that make me happy.
It is important that we believe anything is possible. We think about our dreams. We make goals. And we reach for them.
Here are some questions for you to ponder yourself. Please feel free to share your answers in the comments.
If money was no issue, what would I like to do with my life?
When am I the happiest?
What do I need in my life to feel a sense of peace?
What am I good at?
What would I like to accomplish in the next year or two?